While we do not come to alanon for the purpose of getting the alcoholic to stop drinking, it is true that membership in an alanon group has been an important factor in many an alcoholic's recovery.
Our first concern is our own recovery. For this reason we do not discuss the actions and faults of our spouses, but confine ourselves to overcoming the tensions and anxieties of our own situations. We who are in the family of an alcoholic suffer fears and frustrations, we feel hopeless and angry.
One we realize that alcoholism is a disease and that we are not responsbie for it, we can master our own feeling so fguilt and hostility. This often brings about improvement in the home situation.
Todays reminder
In our group discussions we avoid long recitals about the misbehavior of the alcoholic, because they do not promote our growth. We are in alanon to get rid of our own feelings of guilt and hostility. We can deal more adequately with problems when heart and mind are not weighed down by negative emotions.
