Meeting scheduled in the Al-anon chat room at 9:00AM Eastern Standard Time

Topics will be:“Speculation (the forming of a theory or conjecture without firm evidence)”; “No. (A complete sentence, no matter who says it)”; “Q-TIP (Quit Taking It Personally)”

One Day At A Time in Al-Anon – December 3^rd :

There are questions – and many of us ask them – that lead us straight down the dead end street of frusteration: “Why can't he...?” - “What is he up to?” - “Why can't I make him...?

They're simple but they say a lot. They reveal our conviction that we're in control – that we know what ought to be done – that our wisdom is greater than someone elses. They lead us to frusteration because we are not in control – of anyone or anything but ourselves.

In his book, The Sign of Jonas, the noted writer Thomas Merton says: “Stop asking yourself questions that have no meaning. Or if they have, you'll find out when you need to – find our both the questions and the answers.”

Todays Reminder:“I would rather ask myself, “What prompts me to do or say things that cause trouble? - “Why do I concentrate on someone else's shortcomings instead of my own?” To such questions I can find the answers – if I dig deeply and honestly enough.

Quote: “Speculating on other peoples attitudes and motives is a waste of time and effort. To search out the reasons for my own is a voyage of discovery.”

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The website link to the group meeting room is http://www.12stepforums.net/chatroom2.html

There are other ways to join the room also. Using mIRC or other chat client, the server we are on is irc.chat4all.org, port 6667.
Which users will need to add to their IRC server list, and our room name (#alanonchat) to their IRC channel.